This is my last blog. Apparently not.
Thursday, December 30, 2010
Wednesday, December 29, 2010
Dig ME!
Hard to live something like this down. You can, perhaps try to keep a low profile, endeavoring to not draw attention to yourself. Perhaps, you may go as far as to downplaying anything that may draw attention to you. Say that one of your pastels passes muster, gets framed and many are moved to say, this is really good. Two words are all that are necessary: Thank you. Not necessary to expound on the technique used, the time spent in fine-tuning the piece in order to get it ready for framing. That is keeping it low-key.
What if, because of your personality, you are known for being effusive, having a comment on anything and everything that you see, hear or are reminded of once a topic is introduced. Is it necessary to say, this reminds me of when... No, pare it down to the core--the meat and potatoes. Do not introduce new topics, share instances of where the topic coincides with something that has recently happened, and might add to the conversation. Avoid this. If you are at times, moved to tears, excuse yourself--if you must cry, do it privately. If your feelings are hurt because something has been said that is making light of something that you do, something that you are known for doing that annoys some, strive to not let it bother you. Hurt feelings have never done anybody in. You will survive.
If you are in the room when a topic is being discussed, suppress your inclination to weigh in. Do everything in your power to blend; become wallpaper, if you will. Unless a question is directed to you, say nothing. When answering a question, keep it pithy. Endeavor to be pleasant, regardless of what is happening around you. If a topic that genuinely interests you comes up, stifle yourself and listen to what is being said. You may learn something new, and while you will later say to yourself, why I was just about to say that myself, congratulate yourself on having had the presence of mind to say nothing. Life is not a game of Jeopardy. There are no points earned in enthusiastically giving the answer, even if you know it. This type of behavior, which is inherent and part of our personality is what had been causing you to volunteer opinions, comments and in general, expounding on any topic you think may add to what is being said. Nobody wants to listen to someone who always has an opinion or anecdote that relates to what has just been said. You have been doing this all your life, and you will not like how you feel when after the fact, you reflect over what you've contributed. There is always someone around who can also relate, and their comments may not only enlighten you, but you will come away with something you have not heard before. The key is to learn to listen, enjoy what is being said, and your reward is that much later, you will feel at peace with yourself because you have begun to learn to listen and learn.
If you are one who has always had something to say about everything, you are most likely not someone who folks await with bated breath to hear your pearls of wisdom. You have contributed enough, and said more than most say in half of your lifetime. It is time to listen. Patience goes hand in hand with listening. If you are anticipating what you will say when someone is talking, cannot wait for them to finish their sentence and find yourself about to interrupt in order to finish what they are about to say, you are doing it wrong. Life is not about having the answers before the person who is telling their story is able to get to the punchline. Nobody likes to be interrupted. If you have never been interrupted, chances are, you are the one who is constantly thinking of what you will say, instead of patiently waiting to hear what others have to say about the topic at hand. It is not necessary for everyone to know that you knew what they were about to say. In fact, that is an obnoxious habit, which must be eliminated immediately. If you find that many love you, but you are not easy to like, it may be that you are constantly striving to be the center of attention. It may have been cute when you were a five-year old, but it is not at all cute when you are an adult. Count yourself lucky if someone holds up a mirror, and you cringe because you have been guilty of most, if not all of the above. It is time for you to learn the virtue of patience and learn to listen. You must stop wanting everyone/anyone to Dig ME!
What if, because of your personality, you are known for being effusive, having a comment on anything and everything that you see, hear or are reminded of once a topic is introduced. Is it necessary to say, this reminds me of when... No, pare it down to the core--the meat and potatoes. Do not introduce new topics, share instances of where the topic coincides with something that has recently happened, and might add to the conversation. Avoid this. If you are at times, moved to tears, excuse yourself--if you must cry, do it privately. If your feelings are hurt because something has been said that is making light of something that you do, something that you are known for doing that annoys some, strive to not let it bother you. Hurt feelings have never done anybody in. You will survive.
If you are in the room when a topic is being discussed, suppress your inclination to weigh in. Do everything in your power to blend; become wallpaper, if you will. Unless a question is directed to you, say nothing. When answering a question, keep it pithy. Endeavor to be pleasant, regardless of what is happening around you. If a topic that genuinely interests you comes up, stifle yourself and listen to what is being said. You may learn something new, and while you will later say to yourself, why I was just about to say that myself, congratulate yourself on having had the presence of mind to say nothing. Life is not a game of Jeopardy. There are no points earned in enthusiastically giving the answer, even if you know it. This type of behavior, which is inherent and part of our personality is what had been causing you to volunteer opinions, comments and in general, expounding on any topic you think may add to what is being said. Nobody wants to listen to someone who always has an opinion or anecdote that relates to what has just been said. You have been doing this all your life, and you will not like how you feel when after the fact, you reflect over what you've contributed. There is always someone around who can also relate, and their comments may not only enlighten you, but you will come away with something you have not heard before. The key is to learn to listen, enjoy what is being said, and your reward is that much later, you will feel at peace with yourself because you have begun to learn to listen and learn.
If you are one who has always had something to say about everything, you are most likely not someone who folks await with bated breath to hear your pearls of wisdom. You have contributed enough, and said more than most say in half of your lifetime. It is time to listen. Patience goes hand in hand with listening. If you are anticipating what you will say when someone is talking, cannot wait for them to finish their sentence and find yourself about to interrupt in order to finish what they are about to say, you are doing it wrong. Life is not about having the answers before the person who is telling their story is able to get to the punchline. Nobody likes to be interrupted. If you have never been interrupted, chances are, you are the one who is constantly thinking of what you will say, instead of patiently waiting to hear what others have to say about the topic at hand. It is not necessary for everyone to know that you knew what they were about to say. In fact, that is an obnoxious habit, which must be eliminated immediately. If you find that many love you, but you are not easy to like, it may be that you are constantly striving to be the center of attention. It may have been cute when you were a five-year old, but it is not at all cute when you are an adult. Count yourself lucky if someone holds up a mirror, and you cringe because you have been guilty of most, if not all of the above. It is time for you to learn the virtue of patience and learn to listen. You must stop wanting everyone/anyone to Dig ME!
Wednesday, December 15, 2010
Monday, December 13, 2010
SINCE WHEN ARE POSTS TO MY BLOG DEFAULTED INTO MY JUNK
Wth?
Yes, and several friends have been summarily sent right into my junk box. Why?
So, obviously, the most important place to go is now junk, as I may have missed a lovely dinner after-the-holidays invitation, some comments to my blog, and who knows what else? I routinely clean the junk before doing anything else, sending it to delete and then deleting from delete. Not anymore.
Yes, and several friends have been summarily sent right into my junk box. Why?
So, obviously, the most important place to go is now junk, as I may have missed a lovely dinner after-the-holidays invitation, some comments to my blog, and who knows what else? I routinely clean the junk before doing anything else, sending it to delete and then deleting from delete. Not anymore.
GRRRRRR
Why yes, it is possible for me to lose my temper with someone I love unconditionally. Since when is it appropriate for a child to tell an adult just how the cow ate the cabbage? Oh no, he didn't!! And, then he had the nerve to actually ask his uncle if he could drive the golf cart. What's wrong with this picture?
Saturday, December 11, 2010
GOLF! PLAYING BY THE RULES
I am not saying that if you're with your bff and want to get to the green on a par 5 (and not take a 9) that it is not fun to tee it up on your second shot, it is! I can't wait to try this, as I've never tried this before, but in all honesty, playing by the rules makes it you against the course, as I believe golf is meant to be played.
Yes, there are rules unique to certain golf courses, but in general, playing as if you're on the pro tour, abiding by the rules is the way to go!
But...if you're rusty, it will certainly get you back on the course--nothing like smacking a ball off the tee!
Yes, there are rules unique to certain golf courses, but in general, playing as if you're on the pro tour, abiding by the rules is the way to go!
But...if you're rusty, it will certainly get you back on the course--nothing like smacking a ball off the tee!
Friday, December 10, 2010
EDITING
You will notice that I don't do much of it. Which is ironic, since I have edited two books. I am absolutely anal about caps, quotes, past tense thrown in with present tense, and all things grammar. Don't even get me started on spelling. My children have dubbed me the walking dictionary.
That said, when I look over these posts I lmao because I have no intention of correcting any of these blogs. Yep. You see, I find my humor in the most unlikely places. I also use my own quotes, as in "My husband has more integrity in his little finger than most people have in their entire body." Or, this one: When I throw pebbles, you throw rocks.
That said, when I look over these posts I lmao because I have no intention of correcting any of these blogs. Yep. You see, I find my humor in the most unlikely places. I also use my own quotes, as in "My husband has more integrity in his little finger than most people have in their entire body." Or, this one: When I throw pebbles, you throw rocks.
WHAT?
Has the whole world gone crazy? All of a sudden, I have a social life. In fact, I may need a social CALENDAR. Yep! Just went to a Christmas party recently, tonight we're going to a second one, and we had to send our regrets to one of our neighbors, as we will be unable to attend her party on Saturday, since we have a Birthday party to attend. And, we have an invitation to go out to dinner after the holidays with a friend and his lovely wife--we knew them both in high school. They must be high school sweethearts too.
Too funny.
Too funny.
Wednesday, December 8, 2010
DANG! SURE FEELS GOOD TO SMACK THOSE GOLF BALLS!
I'm at it again. Yep. I'm using that third tee box I made by the side of the road. Nice way to practice landing on the green. My green is the lawn on our back yard. Yes, Jack does know, and as long as I don't break any windows, we're good.
LIKE COSTANZA, TIME TO GO!
Yep, instead of getting rid of that Facebook addiction, I'm starting a new one. I think I may wait until somebody besides Mary comments on this blog, before posting a new one. Maybe I will, and maybe I won't.
HA!
HA!
YOU CRAZY FOOL!
For some time now, I've been responding to comments on Facebook with "You crazy fool!" Some disappear, some are taken aback, some like it, some don't. But, what I never expected was for a young man (a friend of my bff's daughter) to be told by my friends daughter, You have just been called a crazy fool by Mary. Wear it as a badge of honor! I said, says you! Ever since I called your brother a crazy fool, he no longer comments or likes anywhere near where I can see it.
I say this to folks because it is a form of endearment. If I've ever called you a crazy fool, you can pretty much bet on it that I consider you to be intelligent, clever and most of all, you make me smile.
I say this to folks because it is a form of endearment. If I've ever called you a crazy fool, you can pretty much bet on it that I consider you to be intelligent, clever and most of all, you make me smile.
WHAT DO YOU MEAN YOU TALKED TO DENNIS MILLER
It's absolutely true. You can blame the screening process if you want. But, I passed the laugh test. Yep, just like Kurt Vonnegut says, "Just like someone without mental illness, only more so." Of course I took that quote from Kurt's new book (loved it!), Just Like Someone Without Mental Illness Only More So: A Memoir by Kurt Vonnegut. His first book, East of Eden opened my eyes in ways I never thought possible. But, yes, it is possible to learn something new.
DENNIS MILLER THIS IS FOR YOU!
Why yes it IS possible for someone to impersonate a 6' midget. And, I would have elaborated if you'd only LISTENED to me. That's what I get for trying to be pithy! I told Billy to tell you that I apologize for that asinine comment. You should have heard me out, Dennis. I would not lie to you.
MANAGING MY FACEBOOK MANIA
I may have just recently discovered a way to abate this Facebook addiction that I seem to be fighting!
We'll see...
We'll see...
NEWS NEW MEXICO
Lou Dobbs? Really?
I am amazed that Lou Dobb's new radio show, Mondays from 1 p.m to 4 p.m. was launched by News New Mexico!!
Great interview, Jim Spence and Michael Swickard! It was a pleasure listening to my brother-in-law interview Lou Dobbs!
I am amazed that Lou Dobb's new radio show, Mondays from 1 p.m to 4 p.m. was launched by News New Mexico!!
Great interview, Jim Spence and Michael Swickard! It was a pleasure listening to my brother-in-law interview Lou Dobbs!
Tuesday, December 7, 2010
Yes, it IS possible!
Just Like Someone Without Mental Illness Only More So: A Memoir, by Mark Vonnegut. This book was empowering, in that if Mark can be a practicing pediatrician and have almost the exact same manic episodes as I used to have, well, then I'm not broken then, am I? Yes, it is possible to become a contributing member of society. Just because I have Bipolar disorder does not mean I am defined by it. I don't hear anybody saying, hello, my name is so and so and I have diabetes. So, why would I say, hello, my name is Mary, and I am Bipolar! No, I am not Bipolar, I have Bipolar disorder. It is so frustrating at times when folks do not understand that having this disorder does not mean that I am always hypo-manic and that I cannot integrate into polite society. Yes, it IS possible!
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